I need help creating a thesis and an outline on Success in Marriage. Prepare this assignment according to the guidelines found in the APA Style Guide. An abstract is required. John M. Gottman et al. argues, “Why is marriage so tough at times? Why do some lifelong relationships click while others tick away like a time bomb? And how can you prevent a marriage from going bad—or rescue one that already has?” These are profound questions, and no clear-cut answers can be given about a particular case. Each man, each woman, is special. As such, their marital issues are also special. The psychological methods to treat them need to be in tandem with the intensity and complicity of the conflict related to their relationship.
Look at a wooden log, ill-formed and unattractive. But the sculptor visualizes a beautiful statue within it. He chisels the non-essential parts from it steadily, and finally, a beautiful statue emerges. In the married life, there are two sculptors and one wooden log through which an ideal marriage statue has to be chiseled with the joint efforts and skills of both. Success in marriage is simple to work out. Gottman (2000) expresses similar sentiments and argues,
What can make a marriage work is surprisingly simple? Happily married couples aren’t smarter, richer, or more psychologically astute than others. But their day-to-day lives have hit upon a dynamic that keeps their negative thoughts and feelings about each other (which all couples have) from overwhelming their positive ones. They have what I call an emotionally intelligent marriage. (p.3)
In a happy marriage, all problems need not be solved. We need to know how to live life without being affected unduly by such problems. If perfect discipline and joy are not available, carry on with the available discipline and joy. One needs to know how to negotiate the ship of married life through turbulence. The couple need not damage relationships on every unsolvable issue. For some issues, only time is the greatest healer.
When treatment is referred to, one needs to carry the impression that one .has to visit the chamber of a psychologist to avail the treatment. Self-education and devising an own time-table is also a procedure to obtain the benefits of change.